One Big Reason Young Mormons Are Afraid of Marriage (And How to Fix It)

One Big Reason Young Mormons Are Afraid of Marriage (And How to Fix It)

As a young single adult in the Church, I’ve had a plethora of conversations with friends about why we’re afraid of dating, afraid of commitment, afraid of marriage—or all of the above. Our general Church leaders tell us that it’s the most exquisite and important thing we’ll ever experience in life. And yet, many of us put off the search to find a spouse.

We want to be with the absolute best person for us. Keep searching, they say. Don’t settle for anything less than the best, we’re told.

We get the same message from the media that surrounds us. If the phone you have is better than the last one you had, then it’s a sure-fire bet that the next phone you get will be even better. Everything we have or do seems to merely a placeholder for something better coming our way.

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So what happens when the message from our Church leaders and our social media and technology both tell us to wait for the best?


It’s called “fear of missing out,” or FOMO for short. It’s defined as “anxiety that an exciting or interesting event may currently be happening elsewhere, often aroused by posts seen on a social media website.” This theory that we’re “missing out” on something more exciting can be applied to technology, social life—and yes, dating and marriage.


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